SECONDARY LOSSES AFTER A BEREAVEMENT

After a bereavement the loss itself is distressing, however this is often the first of further losses which may also be associated with a bereavement.

These additional losses may not be initially evident however they are no less significant.  The physical loss of a loved one is the most noticeable change to a persons life, however the following are also important to acknowledge: 

The loss of a shared future together

The loss of your shared social life

The loss of all that your loved one did/supported you with 

THE COMPLEXITIES OF LOSS

How we experience and feel about a loss is different from person to person, however there are features which can both exacerbate and/or lessen their effect. 

The circumstances of the bereavement - If it was sudden or expected. 

For instance, after a long illness, after an accident or if it was traumatic or violent in nature.

The relationship/emotional closeness to the person who died.

Other commitments – additional caring duties for children, other family members or friend.  Work commitments, social activities and/or financial circumstances.

Loss can be just as life-changing as a bereavement